While proper etiquette dictates that sympathy cards are ideally sent within two weeks after a death, it is never too late to send someone a sympathy card or note to express your heartfelt feelings of condolence for their loss. There can be many reasons for sending condolence cards late. Whether you heard about the person’s passing a few months or even a year after their death, or you put off sending a sympathy card because you just didn’t know what to say; know that your card or letter of sympathy will be appreciated no matter when it is received.
Some may feel uncomfortable sending sympathy cards months after the person has passed away, afraid that they are “reminding” the recipient of their loss. A person who is grieving does not need to be reminded of their loss; they live with it every day. Often those that are grieving the loss of a loved one may feel that they are alone in their grief. They may feel that life is moving forward for those around them while they are still dealing with the pain of loss. Your card may very well be cherished all the more because it could come at a time when they are in need of the comfort and understanding they may no longer be receiving. Your recipient will appreciate knowing that others are also thinking of their loved one and are empathetic to their loss.
Don’t worry about explaining why it took you some time to send a card. A sympathy card is for the recipient to know of your sadness over the passing of a loved one; it is for the recipient to know that you care. The only thing you need to express is your sympathy, which is a thought that will be both welcomed and appreciated.
So don’t be afraid to send condolence cards if some time has passed since a funeral or memorial service. When people are grieving a card is a reminder that they are not alone, that they are still cared for by others. A card can make all the difference in the world.
FAQs
While proper etiquette dictates that sympathy cards are ideally sent within two weeks after a death, it is never too late to send someone a sympathy card or note to express your heartfelt feelings of condolence for their loss. There can be many reasons for sending condolence cards late.
Is there a time limit on sending a sympathy card? ›
If you're trying to follow proper etiquette, it's best to send a note, gift or flowers within two weeks of the funeral. However, you can do it later, as long as you feel it would be helpful rather than painful. If you found out about the death too late to respond in a timely fashion, you can explain that in your note.
What is the protocol for sending sympathy cards? ›
You should send the Sympathy Card to the closest relative of the person who has died (i.e. the widow or eldest child). In the case where you are familiar with the person grieving, but not the deceased themselves, you can address your Sympathy card to your acquaintance.
Is it OK to send a sympathy card months later? ›
It's never too late to offer condolences and show you care. Sympathy cards play a crucial role in comforting those who have experienced loss. They provide a tangible expression of support and offer a sense of connection during a difficult time.
How soon should you send a condolence message? ›
When to send condolences. If you are close with the person who has experienced a loss, you should send your condolences as soon as you learn about the death of their loved one. You can also send a card within a few days or close to the funeral or memorial service.
How long do you keep condolence cards? ›
There's no specific time honestly, but if you find it hard deciding, just keep them all in a file and lock them away so you don't have to think about it. As long as you want.
Can you send a belated sympathy card? ›
It's essential to send your condolences as soon as possible as a gesture of compassion and empathy. However, life happens, and while you may feel guilty for the delay, remember that it's never too late to show someone you care.
How late is too late to send sympathy flowers? ›
It Is Never Too Late to Send Sympathy Flowers
Also, even if a few weeks have passed since the death, flowers are a comforting reminder that friends are still thinking of the family throughout the grieving process.
What is the difference between a sympathy card and a condolence card? ›
The difference between a condolence letter and a sympathy note is the length. For example, a note might be a few sentences, while letters could be a few paragraphs. It's your choice which you choose to write and depends on your relationship with the person.
Is it rude not to send a sympathy card? ›
The only thing you need to express is your sympathy, which is a thought that will be both welcomed and appreciated. So don't be afraid to send condolence cards if some time has passed since a funeral or memorial service.
What NOT to Write in a Sympathy Card
- NAME is in a better place.
- God has a plan (or) Everything happens for a reason.
- I know how you feel because my father/mother/spouse/child is also gone.
- You'll feel better soon.
- You can remarry/have another child.
- God wanted NAME as an angel.
The most common time to send a sympathy gift is within two weeks of receiving the news. However, you can send it at any time. The best way to time a condolence gift should be whenever you know it is best for the person.
How long do you wait to send flowers when someone dies? ›
You can order either type as soon as you hear of the death. However, funeral flowers should arrive in time for – and ideally on the day of – the funeral service. On the other hand, you may choose to send sympathy flowers days or even weeks after the service has taken place.
Is it rude to not give condolences? ›
Doing nothing, or pretending it didn't happen, is not good etiquette. Whether you are offering condolences by calling, sending a card or flowers, or visiting, the important thing is to make a gesture that lets the family know you're thinking of them and share their sorrow.
What is the best condolence message? ›
- I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
- Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
- Thinking of you in these difficult times.
- I'm so sorry to hear about ___. I know how much his/her smile brightened your day. ...
- We're sorry to hear about the passing of ___. Sending love.
When it comes to sympathy card etiquette, it's acceptable to send your condolences to anyone who is grieving. This could include the parents, siblings, cousins, friends, or even colleagues of the deceased. You can send individual cards or one collective message to the family — whichever you'd prefer.
How long do you have to send sympathy thank yous? ›
There is no set deadline when it comes to sending out thank you cards, though getting them out within two to three weeks after the funeral is ideal. Even if it takes some time for you to feel ready to tackle the task of writing thank you notes, it is never too late to send them out.
