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After the funeral, there comes a period when the initial wave of emotions begins to settle, and we gradually return to daily routines and responsibilities. One important task that should be taken care of during this transitional phase is expressing written gratitude to relatives, friends, and acquaintances who sent flowers, made memorial donations, provided meals, etc.
While writing thank you notes may seem overwhelming, it can actually be a healing and cathartic experience for grieving families. As tokens of appreciation, they remind us of the power of compassion and empathy during life’s most challenging moments.
In this blog, we will explain how and what to write in a funeral thank you card and discuss the different ways families can convey their appreciation. As you read, please bear in mind that there are no rigid guidelines for acknowledging support, and the etiquette surrounding it is truly personal and unique to each individual.
Funeral Home Thank You Cards
Most funeral homes offer pre-formatted thank you cards as à la carte items or as part of a tribute package that include a register book, funeral programs, prayer cards, and other types of stationary.
Typically, these cards can be customized with the deceased’s photo and information about their life, as shown in the example below.
Families are provided with a variety of designs and messages to choose from, enabling them to select the ones that most accurately reflect the personality and spirit of their loved one.
Inside the card, there is usually enough space to write a couple of sentences. While simply signing the card with your own name or “Family of [deceased’s first and last name]” is sufficient, adding a short handwritten note is a nice touch.
Here are a couple of examples of thoughtful messages:
“Thank you for the beautiful flower arrangement you sent to the church. It was one of our favorites and brightened up our home for many days after the service.”
We greatly appreciate your donation to [charity] in [name of deceased]’s name. This cause was near and dear to their heart, and your generosity is a meaningful tribute in their memory.”
“Thank you for the delicious casserole you brought to our home. It gave us a wonderful feeling of consolation and goodwill.”
Sympathy Acknowledgement Cards
In addition to the pre-formatted cards offered by the funeral home, there are also additional styles of sympathy recognition cards available that provide more choices and ample space for messages.
One option is a greeting card with a standard verse that is fitting for the situation. Another option is a simple note card that is left blank on the inside, providing a canvas for longer messages. There is also the option to order formal, fully-customizable cards, either online or directly from the funeral home, should they provide such a service.
For those who want to express their gratitude in a longer note but lack immediate time or emotional energy, they can opt for a funeral home-provided card and follow up with another card at a later date.
This approach allows them to promptly acknowledge the support while providing the flexibility to send a personalized message when they feel ready.
Penning the Thank-You Note – 4 Steps
If you have recently lost a loved one and wish to write a lengthier message, you can use the following outline as a guide.
1. Open with a statement of recognition and gratitude.
Begin by addressing the individual or group to whom you are writing. The next sentence can then express acknowledgment and appreciation, such as: “We will be forever grateful for your presence, love, and thoughtfulness through everything.”
2. Mention the gesture that was extended.
Next, reference the specific act of kindness and let the recipient(s) know how they impacted you and your family during your time of sadness. Whether they brought you comfort, lifted your spirits, or gave you strength, articulate how their actions made a positive difference.
3. Highlight the significance of their relationship with the deceased.
You can also acknowledge the importance of the connection between the card recipient and the departed loved one. Don’t hesitate to share memories or state how their relationship brought joy, love, and happiness into the deceased’s life.
4. End with a heartfelt closing.
Conclude by reiterating your thankfulness and extending well wishes to the recipient. You may write a closing sentence, such as “Your empathy has made this journey more bearable, and we are deeply touched by your kindness.” Then sign the card with your name, or if you are writing on behalf of the entire family, consider a closing like “With love and appreciation, The Smith Family”.
Who should receive a thank you note?
While it is not necessary to mail a formal thank you note to each and every person who attended the funeral or sent a card, it is considerate to recognize those who have done the following:
- Sent flowers or sympathy gifts to the visitation, service, or family home.
- Donated to a charity, church, foundation, etc., in memory of your loved one.
- Provided financial assistance towards the cost of funeral services.
- Had a role in the funeral (i.e. eulogist, reader, pallbearers, readers, musicians).
- Presided over the memorial service or funeral.
- Traveled a long distance to attend the service(s).
- Brought food to the family home or coordinated a meal after the service.
- Provided help, such as caring for children or pets, grocery shopping, house chores.
- Funeral home and cemetery staff who went above and beyond.
Fostering Healing and Closure
During times of loss, writing thank you cards can be a therapeutic channel for expressing gratitude. Through this process, families are provided with an opportunity to pause and reflect upon the outpouring of support they received and navigate the complexities of the mourning process with a little more ease.
If you are reading this blog because you have recently suffered the loss of a loved one, my deepest condolences go out to you. It is my hope that the guidance provided here will assist you in knowing what to write in a funeral thank you card and opens a healing path for you to honor the memory of your departed loved one.
Jill Darby
Jill is a member of the Marketing Team and copywriter for Camino del Sol and all affiliated companies. She grew up in the funeral industry, as her family owned funeral homes in the Midwest. After graduating from Miami University, Ohio in 2003 with a Bachelor’s degree in Business, Jill worked in sales and customer relations for a global funeral product manufacturer. Her experience also includes merchandising, cemetery operations, and aftercare. Jill and her husband, Rich enjoy spending time with family, traveling, watching college basketball, and spoiling their 5 grandchildren.
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